Contributor’s note: Received this parable
from a colleague at work - author or original source unknown.
It is probably an allegory, but there are some
good parallels to what we believe in this.
I took the liberty of editing it just slightly
and put my comments in [brackets].
The 92-year-old lady moved to a nursing home today.
Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.
After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing
home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready.
As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, her
escort provided a visual description of her tiny room, including
the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love
it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having
just been presented with a new puppy.
“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room
.... just wait.” “That doesn’t have anything to
do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you
decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t
depend on how the furniture is arranged ... it’s how I arrange
my mind. [Happiness is submission to God Alone—it is a priority
we choose to make, or how we choose to arrange our minds.]
I have already decided to love it ... “It’s
a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;
I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with
the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and
be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long
as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy
memories I’ve stored away ... just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account ... you withdraw from
it what you’ve put in... So, my advice to you would be to
deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories. [See
No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone
can start from now and make a brand new ending. [God never changes
the condition of anyone unless they choose to change.]
God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow,
sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort
for the tears, and light for the way. [God promises us victory.]
Disappointments are like road bumps, they slow you
down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don’t
stay on the bumps too long. Move on!
When you feel down because you didn’t get what
you want, just sit tight and be happy, because God has something
better to give you. [Don’t grieve over what you didn’t
get, because you weren’t meant to have it.]
When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means.
There’s a purpose to life’s events, to teach you how
to laugh more or not to cry too hard. [Or to give thanks for the
good, and ask for patience and understanding for the bad.]
You can’t make someone love you, [or follow
you]; all you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is
up to the person to realize your worth.
We spend too much time looking for the right person
to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead
we should be perfecting the love we give. [Do we idolize our ideal
of the perfect person, whether it is a spouse, our child, a parent,
or someone else? Or maybe make those same people in our lives miserable
for the same reason - we idolize our fantasies of what we want others
Note: This story is very touching, and filled
with good advice, but we should consider it in a broader context.
Our lives should be a “bank account” for the Hereafter.
Are we depositing for this life, as this story advises us to do,
or are we depositing for the next life, which is what God advises
us to do? Will we be able to withdraw from our “bank account”
only in this life, or we will be able withdraw from our “bank
account” in the Hereafter?
We should all be concerned with our “portfolios” and
our “net worth”.
Do we each have a “certificate of deposit” or CD waiting
to “rollover” in the Hereafter? The Quran is the ultimate
“financial planner” for our future.
Happy savings to all!