Controls Life And Death
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may feel—because you have no control over death. It’s understandable to feel loneliness—the house feels empty; you can’t call them on the phone; you look at pictures and remember what you used to share with them. But be assured, you’re not alone in the grief. So find good ways to cope, like talking to someone, especially someone else who knew the person, reading God’s scriptures, talking to God, and prayer always works.
Don’t have guilt. Don’t go with the negative feelings—I should have been there; I should have spent more time with them; I neglected them; etc. etc. No matter what, remember we have no control over their life or even our own life. God has that. Nor can we prevent time and unforeseen events from happening. Dwelling upon all kinds of “if onlys” will not change a thing. Accept help from others, and offer help to the family. Pay bills, take out the trash, go to the bank or the grocery store, little things that will help a lot. And it will help you too—keep you from overeating in your grief or sleeping too much. Remember that you do need to eat and sleep for your health, just don’t take it to extremes.
It’s normal to feel shock, numbness, sadness, even guilt or anger. Just don’t let those emotions overwhelm you. No one can put a time limit on the grieving process; everyone grieves differently. It’s a process that cannot be rushed.
Some tips to cope:
- Socialize with other people—don’t go it alone. Talk it out and release it.
- Remember the good times you shared.
- Write out your feelings in a book of what you should or could have said or done with God’s help. This may help you heal.
- Take the opportunity now to tell the people you love how you feel about them before it’s too late.
- Hold onto some personal things from your loved one.
- Rely on God for all comfort. He comforts us in all our afflictions and thus enables us to comfort those who are in trouble, with the same consolation we have received from Him. [2 Corinthians 1:4]
Do not let it dominate you. Time heals all wounds. In time you will remember the good times and be glad you had them for the time you had your loved one. Mourn and grieve as you must, but don’t forget that you still have to make the best of the life that is ahead of you. May Almighty God keep all believers on the right path and accept our worship to Him alone. Death is no mystery to a Submitter.
[3:169-71] Do not think that those who are killed in the cause of GOD are dead; they are alive at their Lord, enjoying His provisions. They are rejoicing in GOD's grace, and they have good news for their comrades who did not die with them, that they have nothing to fear, nor will they grieve. They have good news of GOD's blessings and grace, and that GOD never fails to reward the believers.
[29:56-9] O My servants who believed, My earth is spacious, so worship Me. Every soul will taste death, then to us you will be ultimately returned. Those who believe and lead a righteous life, we will surely settle them in Paradise, with mansions and flowing streams. Eternally they abide therein. What a beautiful reward for the workers. They are the ones who steadfastly persevere, and trust in their Lord.
[31:34] With GOD is the knowledge regarding the Hour (end of the world). He is the One who sends down the rain, and He knows the contents of the womb. No soul knows what will happen to it tomorrow, and no one knows in which land he or she will die. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.
[3:145] No one dies except by GOD's leave, at a predetermined time. Whoever seeks the vanities of this world, we give him therefrom, and whoever seeks the rewards of the Hereafter, we bless him therein. We reward those who are appreciative.
[21:35] Every soul will taste death, after we put you to the test through adversity and prosperity, then to us you ultimately return.
Marvels of GOD
[2:2] This scripture is infallible; a beacon for the righteous.
[55:13++] Which of your Lord’s Marvels can you deny?
Analyzing more areas of knowledge contained in the Quran in light of modern education and science.
Oceanography: Modern science has discovered that in the places where two different seas meet, there is a barrier between them. This barrier divides the two seas so that each sea has its own temperature, salinity and density. However, when the water from one sea enters the other sea, it loses its distinctive characteristic and becomes homogenized with the other water. In a way this barrier serves as a transitional homogenizing area for the two sea waters. Oceanographers have been researching this subject from 1873 by collecting data from several meeting points of the two seas, but the actual answer appeared for the first time in scientific books in 1942. Studies of marine characteristics revealed these separations between neighbouring seas which maintained the distinctive properties of each sea with respect to density, salinity, marine life, temperature and solubility of oxygen in water. This is in addition to the barrier of evaporation.
[25:53] He is the One who merges the two seas; one is fresh and palatable, while the other is salty and undrinkable. And He separated them with a formidable, inviolable barrier (evaporation).
[27:61] Who is the One who made the earth habitable, caused rivers to run through it, placed on it mountains, and created a barrier between the two waters? Is it another god with GOD? Indeed, most of them do not know.
[55:19-20] He separates the two seas where they meet. A barrier is placed between them, to prevent them from transgressing.
Who but God could have explained this phenomenon 1400 years ago in so much
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